Friday the 13th, my Birthday.

My Starbucks Birthday Cake for Myself

I was born on Friday the 13th, July 1990 and today is my 22nd birthday.

To many people, birthdays are just another day. Nothing special whatsoever. But to me, I feel it holds a certain significance and I do value my birthdays perhaps because of the way I was brought up. My parents had celebrated my birthday with me since I was born and it was always quite a big deal. I remembered that I had my birthdays at Macdonalds twice before I was 12 and I had numerous birthdays held at home with buffet catered for my guests.

Friends? What friends?

This year, I would be having another buffet held at home but it was decided on an impulse only two days ago. The reason for having one is to gather all my closer friends such that I would be able to spend my night in their company. Sadly, it seemed that most of my friends are already busy with something else but who can I blame? I had informed them about it too late.

I really wished that I could cancel the event after finding out that I could not execute my plan the way I wanted it to be but my mother insisted on following through as she had already placed the order. Awkward much :(

This situation made me wonder if I have any true friends. Yes, I do have many friends but how many of them truly value me as a real friend. Pondering over this on my birthday feels quite depressing isn't it? Yea, I usually get very emotional during my birthday as I would think about such stuff. Expectations breed disappointments.

Birth of Facebook

Anyway, there was this one year after facebook got really popular that I noticed a stark contrast in the way my birthday messages were delivered to me. I had been used to receiving SMSes via the phone since secondary school and the sudden change to Facebook birthday wishes made me feel out of sort.

I got quite depressed as I felt that Facebook wishes were insincere as I felt that any Tom, Dick or Harry could dish out a comment easily via it. It is true that communication between persons has became much easier but at the same time, I felt that the distance between persons has also widened. In my opinion, there is a loss of human touch to these new platforms created. From meeting face to face to telephoning to SMSing and to Facebook messaging, there are more superficial relationships created and less genuine ones forged. The different levels of friendship can be easily noted through these platforms. To me, it matters. I would rather have more friends who would want to meet me face to face than have hundreds of friends wishing me on Facebook. Facebook greetings should be left for acquaintances. 

Reflections

Being in my 20s I feel that I still have a lot of things that I have yet to experience but on the other hand, I also had my fair share of excitment in life and I am grateful for it. :)

This life is short and I do not really know if there is an afterlife hence, I feel that it is imperative for me to enjoy it to the fullest! Okay, that shall be my motto. ENJOY LIFE TTM!


From the bottom of my heart,
Felly